Genesis 1:21-24 “And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; 22 And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”
The most important decision that you will make in life, other than salvation, will be who you will marry. Marriage, if done right is amazing! God created and ordained marriage! I love to see “old people” in love. It is awesome to see couples who have been married for three, four, or even five decades still have “freshness” in their marriage. The “freshness” or “romance” does not come by accident. “Freshness” in marriage will take work, prayer, and purposeful building.
Let’s consider some tips on how to keep our marriage fresh:
1. Spend time together.
Many couples spend less and less time together the longer they are married. A good marriage takes lots and lots of TIME! You can’t fast track a strong relationship. Determine to have some outings alone without the children. These trips and time alone together will fuel your marriage.
• Have a weekly or bi-monthly date.
• Go to the church couple’s retreat. We do this annually. Take advantage of it.
• Go on anniversary trips
2. Listen to your spouse and bless each other with kindness.
Don’t always speak but learn to listen. Do little things for your spouse that they enjoy. Say nice things or write a love note, email, or text.
3. Express physical affection.
The longer some people are married, the less they touch. Don’t let the dating couples out romance you.
4. Read books and get material that will challenge you to grow in your marriage.
Listen to CD’s and read books on marriage. Go to marriage retreats and grow together in church
5. Wait out the “weary places.”
Every relationship goes through valleys. Work pressures, financial pressures, busyness, and a ton of other external factors can weigh down upon your marriage and bring you into a season of weariness. During these times you often lack emotional and spiritual energy, and your marriage relationship can be strained. Look at each other in the eye and say, “We will get through this, let’s just be patient and keep holding on to God and each other.”
6. Forgive each other quickly.
Don’t hold grudges against each other. To keep your marriage fresh, you must be quick to own your failures and apologize. You must be quick to forgive when you’ve been hurt or mistreated.
7. Laugh and enjoy your family.
Every family will have conflicts. Decide intentionally that you won’t allow your family to be dominated by conflict. When conflict arises, work through it and resolve it.
Do we have an emotional relationship and yet move on quickly, or are we concentrated and stick it out through good times and bad?
Often it seems our circumstances pause the dream. and as dreamers we get discouraged.