How to Get Close to Your Pastor

Nathan Ros

God has given us an amazing pastor. One of the most productive relationships that I had in my teen years was the relationship with my pastor. I did not have a dad growing up, and God used my pastors to help me immensely. Humanly speaking, God has used Pastor Esposito and Pastor Meyers to help guide and mold my life. I have always had a great relationship with them.

I believe that one of the biggest mistakes a church member can make is not getting close to the pastor. Some people might think, “He is too busy,” “He is helping other people with bigger problems,” or maybe “I am too new here.”  Whatever reason you might have, let me assure you, our pastor loves, cares, and has time for you. He wants to connect with you! He wants to know you and your family.

So what do we do? How do we connect and get close to our Pastor? Here are a couple of ways:

1. Go to church when the doors are open.

People who are not comfortable with the pastor usually hit and miss the services. You need to be in the service to hear his heart for you and your family. Our pastor spends hours on his sermons weekly to help our families. He gives his heart and time praying and asking the Lord’s direction in what to preach.


2. Pray for Pastor.

I know our pastor prays for our people. He loves and prays for you weekly. He is concerned enough to lift up you and your family to God in prayer. Let us, in turn, lift him and his family up in prayer daily.

3. Spend time with Pastor.

Greet him at church. Take time to say hello and visit with him after the service, during church activities, fellowships, ball games, and school functions.


4. Teach your children to love and honor Pastor.

I push my children to love and honor our pastor. I want them to go to him for counsel. I remind them how much the Lord has used him to help our family. I never criticize or demean him to my family. I want my children to respect him and honor him.

5. Keep him involved in your life.

Pastors have a lot of people to care for, and sometimes he forgets things. Keep him informed about you and your family’s life—birthdays, anniversaries, milestones, or anything important.

6.Read any material that he writes and listen to his sermons if you missed.

We have a blog and devotional on our website. Go there and read, watch, and listen to what he puts out.

7.Counsel with Pastor.

Don’t be afraid to speak to the pastor. He is here to help you and your family. Ask him for godly advice. If he does not have the answers, I know he will get them and give you sound and biblical guidance.


8. Spoil Pastor.

Remember him on his birthday or anniversary, the church anniversary, and at Christmas. Encourage him with notes, kind words, and generous gifts.

When you give extra effort to connect with your pastor, you not only encourage him, you and your family will benefit as well! You need spiritual accountability and connection with your pastor. A strong relationship with him will help you and your family immensely!

Nathan Ros

Bro Ros does a great job in every aspect of ministry that he serves in! He leads our Khmer ministry, youth ministry, and is the teacher of the Grace Adult Bible Class. He and his wife have four wonderful children.

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